Sunday, December 15, 2019

Moissanite: Why it Was Our Choice

Back in June, D and I spent a weekend off-leash training one of our dogs, which involved 2-a-day hikes.  We had a lot of time to chat, and spent a decent portion of it talking about our next few years together, and what we wanted.  Both of us had known for a while that marriage was a next step for us, and I just-so-happened to have my dream engagement ring bookmarked on my phone to show him (you know, just in cases).  In a sort of wild movement of the universe, two days later, the company who made the ring announced a one-time-only sale.  We hemmed and hawed over making the decision that quickly, but ended up deciding to jump on the savings, understanding that we would get engaged later (our definitions of later ended up being different and I just about lost my mind by October).


The ring we chose is by The True Gem company, which works only with moissanite and (very recently) lab grown diamonds.  It was important to me that we not buy a diamond ring for a few reasons.  I was uncomfortable with the amount of money they cost, especially because I recognize there is a huge sentimental/marketing mark up.   Ethically, it was also a major concern that I could not know for sure whether or not an earth-mined diamond was conflict-free, and lab-created diamonds are still bananas expensive. I briefly considered colored stones, but as a person who doesn't wear color, it didn't feel like the right fit.

Moissanite is a colorless gemstone with a similar hardness as diamonds, so it is durable for lifetime, daily use.  It was originally discovered in a meteorite and has since been lab-created for the most part.  The biggest difference between diamonds and moissanite, by my estimation, is that moissanite refracts light in rainbows, not white, and is sparklier than diamonds.  I have nearly caused several accidents while distracted by the light show my ring is creating on the roof of my car.  It's pretty cool and v distracting.


Moissanite is not a fake-diamond, it's its own gemstone.  If you are considering it, I would encourage you to see one in real life, as they're a little different and pretty fun.  There is some internet controversy about moissanites being "fake diamonds" and a cop out to getting a "real" engagement, but I've come to realize that all of that comes from social conditioning around what engagement rings are "supposed to be".  My ring is beautiful, and I love it, but the thing that means so much more to me is who gave it to me, and what it symbolizes. At the end of the day, engagement rings are promises, and it just doesn't matter what they look like, as long as the person wearing it loves it and stands by the promise.

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